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I finally got my spark back!✨
I used to write, produce and even play music for a girl that discarded me after 6+ years of being together. I had a ring for her, reservations at the place she dreamed of, and I used to work tons of overtime hours to save up for our future. After I was discarded randomly, I lost my spark, couldn’t eat, couldn’t go to work, and touching the piano pained me more than anything. Nothing reminded of me the years I spent working on music for her that she’d only listen to for mere of a second. But a week ago, I played her theme song one last time, and the only things I could remember of was great things we’ve done together. After then, I started making music about myself, and eventually, I could finally touch the piano without aching. I know this is different compared to the people who actually need advice and help in this app. But I’m telling you, there is always a brighter side. People who’ve been dumped and trashed, ya’ll are stronger than you know. I love you all! Stay safe.
He couldn’t commit to marriage and kids
My partner and I broke up last week. I initiated the conversation with the hope that he would realise he is about to lose me and get his shit together. Instead, he gave up. He let me go. Even though I really didn’t want to go. I have been with him for three years. He was my first boyfriend. I had so much hopes for us. I knew he wasn’t eager about marriage and kids in general but I gave him time and space. We initially broke up a few times in the first year of dating. The last time he wrote me letters promising he has changed and sees a future with me. Two years went by and slowly he changed back to his old self. It hurts so much but I am so disappointed that he gave up. I know I should be grateful that he finally let me go. However, I am still thinking whether it was me. Whether I should have tried harder. Whether I could have done something to change his mind. But he let me go. Damn him.
I need advice badly
Me and my ex broke up in April exactly 4 months ago. He made moves on my best friend in a physical way after six months of dating. She also told everyone that he had touched her thigh while me and him were talking and that she was too scared to say anything. The part my best friend left out is that while I was laying on him that day, she was grabbing and holding his hand literally behind my back next to me, and later, actively encouraging me to get w him. She also has had a boyfriend and ever since April I’ve been given an ultimatum by my friends. Basically never talk to him again. If you do, we are not your friends anymore. He has changed and grown a lot since then. I’ve had to do so much healing and I don’t think I’m done. After everything cooled down, and I had some time to think and have the difficult talks with him we decided to stay in contact to support each other through this as it was all over my school and rumors were being spread. I wouldn’t exactly say my friends were there for me at all. In fact the day after we broke up, they all hung out without me. I felt so alone the past few months and I’ve noticed that my friend group has basically isolated themselves. About a year ago I was invited on their family vacation for this July and I decided to go. my best friend always makes it seem very supportive towards me with my decision, but at the same time that ultimatum and her true feelings are always on my mind. Was the ultimatum they gave me the night we broke up out of anger? What he did was wrong and he was battling with lust but out of all people I know the hurt he caused. Is it wrong to try again? Ever since then he has shown nothing but devotion and I can’t tell if I’m just being stupid, and I’m far from naive but I truly believe I genuinely love him. my best friend constantly tells me that she doesn’t care about it anymore. She even contacted him to say that she holds nothing against him. Regardless I’ve always been treated like it was my fault. And that what I choose to do with my life determines whether I can keep friends or be shunned. I know they talk shit about me and it doesn’t bother me so bad but I live in this constant state of anxiety and it hasn’t stopped for so long. I think I would’ve been able to handle the breakup better if it weren’t for how my friends treated me. he was also asked by my mom to come on our family vacation and “surprised me“ she constantly tells me to just try again with him, and that their opinions don’t matter, but after vacation , I have been living with this hole in my chest. I have prayed and begged to God for an answer, but I don’t think there is any easy one and I just need some advice.
We are not compatible, but I miss you.
I feel like letting it out here would let go so much of how I am feeling right now. I feel so overwhelmed, I love you so so much. But we were so toxic. We fight everyday, but i don't want to let go even how much we have broken up and said stuff. It feels like we will get back together again, but at the same time I feel empty, hopeless and missing you. It's fresh, i remember you told me never reach out and youd just block me.. it's hurtful, it is something i want to do for you, you seem like you're suffering. At the same time, it would make me very very sad if I see you with another woman, I won't be ready for that any time soon. Which i hope u won't be I don't wanna be evil but it's to keep my self sane. I miss u so much, I don't want u back but it hurts a lot that we aren't together and even how much we tried we wouldn't work out.
3months Post Breakups
Its almost 3 months since my Ex and I broke up. He dumped me because he already gave up on us and he didn't want us to be together anymore. I couldn't get him off my mind, even though I already started going to the gym or doing other side hobbies I still always think about him. I wish I could stop. But i still stalk his social medias and kept overthinking if he already has a new girl which makes me anxious even more.
i miss us
we were dating for 9 months and he broke up with me the day after we hit 9 months. we were always the type to get jealous talking to the opposite gender it didn’t matter much. everytime something would occur i would always say sorry but to it again. i was genuinely changing this time and he never saw i did all these things like paragraphs every night or even 101 reasons why i love him. he never realized how hard i tried. until after we broke up my other ex his friend kept adding me i was hurting not thinking i texted saying how i dont want him added and i want nothing to do with other boys. he kept on texting me and comforting me i told him simply ty i js miss my ex we were tgth for nine months and now he says it was venting. i apologize continuously for trying to do smth that was bad texting him but help clear things up but it didn’t. now he wants nothing to do with me and i miss him so bad everyday because he is my first Real Love. it’s now been 7 days he moved on already found a new girl but he’s never met her b4.
I got dumped…
We were together for 8 months, and I’m now 13 days out from the breakup. I was the one who got dumped, she went Facebook dating to find a fuck buddy, then I found out she was fucking someone… A big part of what I’ve been trying to process is how confusing and inconsistent the relationship felt, especially looking back. There were good moments, which is part of why it’s been so hard to make sense of everything, but there were also patterns that left me feeling emotionally unseen, confused, and like I was giving more care than I was receiving. One of the biggest things I’ve realized is that there were times when I ended up caring for her emotionally in moments where I should have been the one getting cared for. Instead of my feelings being centered or supported, the focus often shifted back to her emotions, her reactions, or her needs. That created a dynamic where I was often the one reassuring, comforting, or managing the emotional atmosphere, even when I was hurt or when something had affected me. Over time, that made me put my own needs to the side and prioritize keeping things calm or making sure she was okay. Looking back now, that imbalance feels really important because it shows how often I was stretching emotionally while getting less support in return. Another thing that stuck with me was the mixed energy she gave off. Sometimes she could be sweet, affectionate, or make it feel like there was a real connection, but other times she came across as shallow, detached, or overly sexual in ways that made me feel reduced rather than genuinely cared for. One example that really stayed with me was when there was a cute question like ‘what’s your favorite part of my body?’ and instead of saying something playful or affectionate like my smile or hair, she just said ‘your dick.’ That moment bothered me more over time because it made me question whether she really valued me as a whole person or if a lot of her interest operated on a more surface-level or objectifying level than I wanted to admit. A lot of my pain now comes from trying to understand what felt like a switch-up in her behavior. I keep going back and forth wondering if she changed suddenly, if this side of her was always there and I just didn’t fully see it, or if I ignored certain signs because I cared
Don’t know what to do
my boyfriend broke up with me over text, he didn’t give me a reason just broke up and acted cold and ignorant. Later on that day I went out drinking, I called him and texted him telling him that i loved him and the answer I got was “stop I want to sleep, please don’t call or text”. I tried for 2 days to get an explanation and then i gave up until i got in contact with his best friend, he told me that he broke up because he felt it was to much, to much stress, to much arguing and that he wanted to spend more time with his friends. I totally understand that because we are basically all up on each other and i basically live with him. But with just a litte bit of communication it all would be fixed. So why leave me like that? Was i not worth it? I ended up seeing him yesterday, he drove to my house and we went outside, we talked and I cried he told me he was sorry and regret what he has done. Later on he told me that he did something stupid. My heart started racing.. he told me he had added a bunch of girls when he was out drinking.. i just got numb, he told me that it was only snaps and just like where you’re from and blablabla. we drove to his house, i wanted to cry when I stepped into his room i missed being there i really do, we talked and he said he will always love me but he feel we can’t just get back together now after breaking up publicly. I really miss him. I don’t know if I should wait or move on it’s too complicated, we were supposed to look after my dog in 3 days and he still wants to do it. If you guys want more information just ask.
So sad
Devastated my boyfriend broke up with me by text and couldn’t face me. My bestest friend and someone that I loved more than anything. Someone I saw everyday and slept next to every night. Just gone. Life is so empty now.😭😭😭😭
I miss him
I was seeing someone not long but in a short time became my person I was excited to talk to everyday. He said he loved me and I loved him. We became each other’s safe space, where we loved the way we made each other feel physically and mentally. He said he has a lot going on in his life and that I deserve better but I wanna continue to love him through the tough times but he won’t let me. Im scared he won’t come back to me or I’ll never be able to move on or that I won’t find this kind of love again. It’s only been 2 weeks and i feel like my world has been turn upside down
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